Frequently Asked Questions
How does the counselling process really work? Is it all about how "bad and mad" I am?
Counselling is a process whereby a person in a safe, private and confidential place has the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings about all areas of life. Counselling can be an effective and insightful tool to help a person better understand their style of problem solving, decision making and the consequences of those choices.
I heard many counsellors just sit and be quiet the whole session. Do your counsellors interact and talk with clients?
Our counselling model is highly interactive and educational which means our counsellors discuss and share many ideals in counselling, to include various techniques and tools to enhance and sustain a person's well-being. The key we beleive in counselling is not only listening to better understand but also being skilled in asking the right questions and highlighting positive and counter-productive thoughts, behaviors and emotions.
What are the key elements so I can determine that counselling is effective for me?
Research and clinical experience universally highlight the significance of the client-counsellor relationship. Our counselling model focuses on building a relationship with the client first and foremost, we do not rush to judgment and make a quick assessment on what is wrong but instead we keep focusing on what more do we need to share and gain insight on? Thus, if our client experiences unconditional positive regard, genuine empathy, active listening, cultural sensitivity and a sense of collaboration from our counsellor then the challenging work ahead has been greatly reduced.
What activities can I do during my counselling experience to assist me in achieving my goals I set in counselling?
We encourage our clients to work on the following positive behaviors as it may take some time before the good mood arises. Those good behaviors are: daily 30 minute brisk walking, doing a walk and talk with someone to share your thoughts (our brains work better when we walk and talk), be mindful of diet and sleep, do daily journal writing and before bed at night spend ten minutes of an attitude of gratitude of the things in life you have experienced. We will share many more techniques in counselling that also relate to your specific concerns that are CBT and positive psychology based.
Can counselling be a quick fix? I heard that is what CBT does - fixes things quickly.
Counselling is almost always never a quick fix and professional - effective counselling is a process that requires six key stages to go through before change and sustainment of that change can occur. Every client has their own pace to open up, listen, learn, experiment and change and we make sure the counselling pace is just the right mix of intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.
How is it in a counselling room? Do I get to lay down on a couch and talk like they portray it in the movies?
Our counselling rooms are well known in Hong Kong for its abundance of warmth, flowers, plants, art work and comfortable, modern furniture. Not all rooms have couches and today it is quite normal for clients to sit in a chair or couch and pursue their well-being goals. Click on the link below to learn more about why St. John's Counselling Service is one of the preferred counselling services in Hong Kong.